I wonder how many of today's young moms are really feeling pressured to be everything to everyone. I am often the fly on the wall listening in on subway conversations, coffee shop rants, and smoking circles outside office buildings.
What I hear most, is that Mom is being crushed by her extra-curricular (outside of career) work as the go-to person for everything.
"Everything" also includes the unconscious spiritual guidance her kids pick up at home. I'm not talking about church, temple, synagogue. No, I'm talking about the inner connections your kids make to who they are inside. This is the part that makes them tick, gets them positive recognition, punished, or stuck.
Moms, if you don't know your deepest values and how they work for or against you, how can you provide these skills and answers to your kids when they look to you to make their world safe, and successful?
Moms, if you don't know your deepest values and how they work for or against you, how can you provide these skills and answers to your kids when they look to you to make their world safe, and successful?
Today's Tool is Self Awareness. The exercise below will take you to an inner place where you can gently probe to see the value you bring to your world. You need to know what you bring in how you create trust because your visibly display your deepest values. Your deepest values are what ground your entire family. When you know your value, you bring its presence into your career. This is when you double-dip on success.
Being a Mom can kill your career if you are stressed and running in circles trying to be all things to all people. Consequently, when you know the value you provide, every decision is made on whether or not you are aligned with your deepest value. If yes, your decisions and actions match your values. The result is that you won't sabotage the outcome or mess up the action plan "accidentally on purpose". If you are not in alignment, well... you know the answer to this one because you have lived it, as have we all.
Homework for Parent the Parenting Home Study Students:
Directions: Journal your answers for future reference.
Ask yourself:
1. What can't I live without?
Example Answer: You may not be able to live without adventure, freedom of speech, freedom of choice or action, or the beautiful things in life, nature, or without laughter. Your options are wide open.
Example Answer: You may not be able to live without adventure, freedom of speech, freedom of choice or action, or the beautiful things in life, nature, or without laughter. Your options are wide open.
2. Do I make decisions based on respecting this valued piece of my life?
Example Answer: Jane accepted a high stress, high paying job that takes her away from her kids every evening, weekends, holidays because she wanted both financial security and status. Security with a price tag. Her deepest value is family security, AND being with her children as they grow up. She is dying from
guilt and stress and missing her family growing up. Now she is make bad decisions at work and arguing with her kids and spouse. Jane respected her value to be the provider of security BUT she did not factor in the consequence of losing touch with her family. Was the high stress - high salary the right fit with her deepest life values? Will she succeed?
3. Review past decisions to see if they were in alignment with this deep life value discovered in step 1. If you failed, was it because you chose out of necessity to ignore this value? Why did this decision or goal fail? If it was successful, what made it successful?
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Sue Rumack, Parent the Parent Expert, CCFL
Author: The Pulse of Awakening, How to Connect With Soul and Life Purpose
The Top 10 Tools Every Successful Parent Needs (release Christmas 2014)
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